BLUE CHRISTMAS
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
Psalm 34:18
We are an already and not yet people. We have been saved, we are being saved, and we will be saved.
The Advent season invites followers of Jesus to sit in the tension of the already and not yet: Christ has come, and he is coming again. Like those who waited, hoped, and longed for the first Advent of the Savior, we are people who wait, hope, and long for the second Advent of our Savior. The day when every eye will see, every ear will hear, every tongue will confess, every knee will bow to the One who will wipe away every tear, set all things right, remake the world, and dwell among His people.
One of the tensions of Advent is that its joy and celebration often seem out of step with the pain of living in a broken world. Can joy and pain coexist? For followers of Jesus who look for the resurrection of the dead and the life of the world to come, ultimately, the answer is yes.
But how do we respond to our sorrow and grief in the waiting?
A Blue Christmas is a service traditionally held on the longest day of winter. It is an invitation to hold the tension of sorrow and grief in a season of joy and celebration. To set all of our longings before the One whose yoke is easy, and burden is light. Whether your grief is acute and specific, or the low-grade hum of waiting on the return of the Savior, use these Scriptures, prayers, and songs to pour out your heart to the One who cares for you.
“Come, let us return to the Lord; for He has torn us, that He may heal us; He has struck us down, and He will bind us up.”
Songs
Scripture
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The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous
and his ears toward their cry.The face of the Lord is against those who do evil,
to cut off the memory of them from the earth.When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears
and delivers them out of all their troubles.The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
and saves the crushed in spirit.Many are the afflictions of the righteous,
but the Lord delivers him out of them all.He keeps all his bones;
not one of them is broken.Affliction will slay the wicked,
and those who hate the righteous will be condemned.The Lord redeems the life of his servants;
none of those who take refuge in him will be condemned. -
Who has believed what he has heard from us?
And to whom has the arm of the Lord been revealed?For he grew up before him like a young plant,
and like a root out of dry ground;
he had no form or majesty that we should look at him,
and no beauty that we should desire him.He was despised and rejected by men,
a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief;
and as one from whom men hide their faces
he was despised, and we esteemed him not.Surely he has borne our griefs
and carried our sorrows;
yet we esteemed him stricken,
smitten by God, and afflicted.But he was pierced for our transgressions;
he was crushed for our iniquities;
upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace,
and with his wounds we are healed.All we like sheep have gone astray;
we have turned—every one—to his own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.He was oppressed, and he was afflicted,
yet he opened not his mouth;
like a lamb that is led to the slaughter,
and like a sheep that before its shearers is silent,
so he opened not his mouth.By oppression and judgment he was taken away;
and as for his generation, who considered
that he was cut off out of the land of the living,
stricken for the transgression of my people?And they made his grave with the wicked
and with a rich man in his death,
although he had done no violence,
and there was no deceit in his mouth.Yet it was the will of the Lord to crush him;
he has put him to grief;
when his soul makes an offering for guilt,
he shall see his offspring; he shall prolong his days;
the will of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.Out of the anguish of his soul he shall see[j] and be satisfied;
by his knowledge shall the righteous one, my servant,
make many to be accounted righteous,
and he shall bear their iniquities.Therefore I will divide him a portion with the many,
and he shall divide the spoil with the strong,
because he poured out his soul to death
and was numbered with the transgressors;
yet he bore the sin of many,
and makes intercession for the transgressors. -
It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your For God alone my soul waits in silence;
from him comes my salvation.He alone is my rock and my salvation,
my fortress; I shall not be greatly shaken.How long will all of you attack a man
to batter him,
like a leaning wall, a tottering fence?They only plan to thrust him down from his high position.
They take pleasure in falsehood.
They bless with their mouths,
but inwardly they curse. SelahFor God alone, O my soul, wait in silence,
for my hope is from him.He only is my rock and my salvation,
my fortress; I shall not be shaken.On God rests my salvation and my glory;
my mighty rock, my refuge is God.Trust in him at all times, O people;
pour out your heart before him;
God is a refuge for us. SelahThose of low estate are but a breath;
those of high estate are a delusion;
in the balances they go up;
they are together lighter than a breath.Put no trust in extortion;
set no vain hopes on robbery;
if riches increase, set not your heart on them.Once God has spoken;
twice have I heard this:
that power belongs to God,and that to you, O Lord, belongs steadfast love.
For you will render to a man
according to his work. -
Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Also he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.”
O Lord, No day of my life has passed that has not proved me guilty in thy sight.
Prayers have been uttered from a prayerless heart;
Praise has been often praiseless sound;
My best services are filthy rags.
Blessed Jesus, let me find a covert in thy appeasing wounds.
Though my sins rise to heaven thy merits soar above them;
Though unrighteousness weighs me down to hell,
thy righteousness exalts me to thy throne.
All things in me call for my rejection,
All things in thee plead my acceptance.
I appeal from the throne of perfect justice
to thy throne of boundless grace.
Grant me to hear thy voice assuring me:
that by thy stripes I am healed,
that thou wast bruised for my iniquities,
that thou hast been made sin for me
that I might be righteous in thee,
that my grievous sins, my manifold sins, are all forgiven,
buried in the ocean of they concealing blood.
I am guilty, but pardoned,
lost, but saved,
wandering, but found,
sinning, but cleansed.
Give me perpetual broken-heartedness,
Keep me always clinging to thy cross,
Flood me every moment with descending grace,
Open to me the springs of divine knowledge,
sparkling like crystal,
flowing clear and unsullied
through my wilderness of life.
— Valley of Vision, A Broken Heart
Prayers
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I have felt its approach in the back of my mind, O Lord, like a burden tilting toward me across the calendar. I have felt its long approach, and now it has arrived.
This is the day that marks the anniversary of my loss, and waking to it, I must drink again from the stream of a sorrow that cannot be fully remedied in this life.
O Christ, redeem this day.
I do not ask that these lingerings of grief be erased, but that the fingers of your grace would work this memory as a baker kneads a dough, till the leaven of rising hope transforms it from within,
into a form holding now in that same sorrow the surety of your presence, so that when I look again at that loss, I see you in the deepest gloom of it, weeping with me, even as I hear you whispering that this is not the end, but only the still grey of the dawn before the world begins.
And if that is so, then let that which broke me upon this day in a past year, now be seen as the beginning of my remaking into a Christ-follower more sympathetic
more compassionate, and more conscious of my frailty and of my daily dependence upon you; as one more invested in the hope of the resurrection of the body and the return of the King, than ever I had been before.
Let this loss-hollowed day arrive in years to come as the kindling of a fire in my bones, spurring me to seek in this short life that which is eternal. Let the past wound, and the memory of it, push me to be present with you in ways that I was not before.
Do not waste my greatest sorrows, O God, but use them to teach me to live in your presence—fully alive to pain and joy and sorrow and hope—in the places where my shattering and your shaping meet.
Amen
From Every Moment Holy, Douglas McKelvey, 2017
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O God, almighty and merciful, you heal the broken-hearted, and turn the sadness of the sorrowful to joy: Let your fatherly goodness be upon all whom you have made. Remember in pity all those who are this day destitute, homeless, elderly, infirm, or forgotten. Bless the multitude of your poor. Lift up those who are cast down. Mightily befriend innocent sufferers, and sanctify to them the endurance of their wrongs. Cheer with hope all who are discouraged and downcast, and by your heavenly grace preserve from falling those whose poverty tempts them to sin. Though they be troubled on every side, suffer them not to be distressed; though they are perplexed, save them from despair. Grant this, O Lord, for the love of him who for our sakes became poor, your Son our Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.
Occasional Prayer #59 | Book of Common Prayer
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Almighty God, whose Son took upon himself the afflictions of your people: Regard with your tender compassion those suffering from anxiety, depression, or mental illness; bear their sorrows and their cares; supply all their needs; help them to put their whole trust and confidence in you; and restore them to strength of mind and cheerfulness of spirit; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Occasional Prayer #62 | Book of Common Prayer
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O blessed Lord, you ministered to all who came to you: Look with compassion upon those who through addiction have lost their health and freedom. Restore to them the assurance of your unfailing mercy; remove from them the fears that beset them; strengthen them in the work of their recovery; and to those who minister to them, give patient understanding and persevering love; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Occasional Prayer #63 | Book of Common Prayer
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Merciful God, you desire not the death of sinners, but rather that they should turn to you and live; and through your only Son you have revealed yourself as the God who pardons iniquity. Have mercy on the unrepentant and those who do not believe. Awaken in them, by your Word and Holy Spirit, a deep sense of their sinfulness and peril. Take from them all ignorance, hardness of heart, and contempt of your Word. Grant them to know and feel that there is no other Name under heaven given among men by which they must be saved, but only the Name of the Lord Jesus Christ. And so bring them home and number them among your children, that they may be yours for ever; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, world without end. Amen.
Occasional Prayer #64 | Book of Common Prayer
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Most loving Father, you will us to give thanks for all things, to dread nothing but the loss of you, and to cast all our care on the One who cares for us. Preserve us from faithless fears and worldly anxieties, and grant that no clouds of this mortal life may hide from us the light of that love which is immortal, and which you have manifested unto us in your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Occasional Prayer #80 | Book of Common Prayer